“Dear you, Make peace with the mirror and watch your reflection change, Peace Begins With a Smile”.
The holiday break is over and things are back to being crazy, really fast and it had me thinking about life. I started to ponder the consequences of every action made, as you would be foolish to not think it doesn’t affect you. Heal and feel again.
We often forget to protect our space the way we do everything else. We are often harder to strangers than we are our own friends and family members. Somehow the notion that “the more you allow, the more you love” has manifested itself into our lives. Why is it that we think its okay for people to cross boundaries and hurt us just because they know us. When you think about it, that’s sending the message that people that love us should hurt us. Of course, it would be easier for someone who loves you to hurt you, because you are more invested in their behavior. Yet that doesn’t mean that they have the right to take advantage. If anything the people that love us should be more careful with our feelings, more mindful and concerned. Love is something that should be healing and helpful, not something that comes along with being hurt.
I’ve noticed over the years that I have accepted negative behaviors from people that are supposed to care about me, simply because we are friends. Saying we are friends has allowed me to keep my guard down and to not be as protective of my space. Friends have special privileges and are allowed more chances than strangers right? They have the history with you and more incidents to measure the good with the bad. That way of thinking can also cause you serious pain and stress if you aren’t mindful of who you are giving those chances to.
Throughout my relationship, I became aware of the fact that my happiness isn’t as important as my support to some people. People are far more invested in me when I’m doing something for them versus when it’s time for them to actually be there for me. Once I became conscious of my role in certain relationships I realized I needed to protect my space. I’m not okay just being here to serve others, I need to take care of myself. We all need to take care of ourselves, and real love is never about depleting yourself until you have nothing left.
I believe that different stages happen in your life and people that begin to leave during those stages aren’t supposed to be apart of the next chapter. Letting go can hurt, and you will have moments when you wish they could be there. However, if you allow yourself to go through the natural process of life, and don’t force situations; you will find yourself much happier. After so many mishap and loss, I have learned to let go and move forward with my life, In doing so I grasp the importance of creating peace in my personal space. Peace is something different for everyone. For me, it’s being able to have people in my life that I know will celebrate me as much as I celebrate them. I don’t have to force the love or respect, it just exists.
So what’s important now is not talking it’s acting, as hard as it may be, you have to let go of things that are hurting you. Things that are causing you to become frustrated and feel alone. Things that are creating more heartache than joy. Jobs, family, friends, and situations that don’t bring you joy. Life is short, all we have is our time here and we don’t get a do-over. So be mindful of your space and time, be intentional with your relationships and actions. Love yourself first and stop handing out passes to people just because you’ve known them for years or they are related to you. If anything, those are the people who should be respecting you the most.
I am strong because I know my weakness
I am beautiful because I am aware of my flaws
I am fearless because I learned to recognize illusion from real
I am wise because I learned from my mistake
I am a lover because I have felt hate
I can laugh because I have known Sadness